If you keep noticing the same dynamic across different relationships — the same kind of partner, the same arguments, the same sense of being let down — that repetition is not a coincidence. It usually points to something learned early, often long before you had the words for it.
Psychoanalytic work is particularly well suited to this kind of pattern, because the therapy relationship itself often becomes a place where those same dynamics show up — which gives us real, live material to work with, not just descriptions of what happened elsewhere.
Seeing the pattern clearly is often the first real shift. What you do with that understanding is something we build together, at your pace.